"We all know Social Media is way more fun when you can post photos or videos of that special someone you enjoy spending time with" (van Bastelaer). However, it can also be dangerous if not used properly.
In "5 Social Media Sins That Will Ruin Your Relationship" by Sophie van Bastelaer, Sophie introduces the 5 most common mistakes social media users make when they are seeing someone. These are things like "Over-sharing about your relationship" or "Actively keeping in touch with your Ex". These are the types of things that break girls hearts and end relationships. There is a picture of an E-card in this article that says "It's a status, not your Diary." I personally agree with that statement because there are too many girls who are always either complaining or consistently talking about their boyfriends. Sometimes that is the main topic in my newsfeed when I go on Facebook and I find it annoying and disgusting. For example, the other day when I was on Facebook scrolling through my newsfeed there was this girl who kept saying how she loved her boyfriend so much and how he will be her best friend always and I kept thinking to myself, ' why does she feel the need to post that for others to see? No one really cares what you have to say about your boyfriend!' Girls should watch what they decide to post about their boyfriends and why they want to post it because you never know what others are going to think/say about it. So, don't be too social on Social Media. Van Bastelaer, Sophie. "5 Social Media Sins That Will Ruin Your Relationship." Her Campus. N.p., 09 Apr. 2015. Web. 13 Apr. 2015.
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"Social media is both a blessing and a curse in this day and age." (Samuels) It can help us get in contact with others and it has an interesting effect on relationships. Getting the Male Perspective: Social Media and relationships by Alexandra Samuels talks about Facebook, twitter, etc. and how guys think they affect romance.
Alexandra asked a select group of men a series of questions. For example, one of the questions was "Would you snoop on your significant other's Facebook/Twitter account?" Adam Williams, sophomore at UT Austin responded, "No, I would not snoop on my significant other's social media account/information as i would trust them not to be doing something they shouldn't be doing." Men who are in relationships expect their significant other's not to be doing something stupid, but I bet you there have been situations where girls have posted something that ended up effecting their relationship with a guy. People should be very careful with Social Media because you never know what you/others might see. Samuels, Alexandra. "Getting the Male Perspective: Social Media and Relationships." USA TODAY College. N.p., 24 Oct. 2014. Web. 06 Apr. 2015. An important aspect of Social Media is how people feel when being on it and and what their social self-esteem looks like. So when I found "Friend Networking Sites and their relationship to adolescents well-being and social self-esteem," I knew I found the perfect article.
The point for writing this article was to investigate the rewards/consequences of friend networking sites. Since this article was written back in 2009 examples of these sites would include myspace and Friendster. I have never had a myspace or a Friendster account before, but I think these types of sites are what started the whole relationship via social media concept. This is how people met one another and communicated and it still is today. The authors of this article conducted a survey among a bunch of teens who had an online profile on a social networking site. The use of the friend networking site stimulated the number of relationships created on these sites. Also, whether there was positive/negative feedback on their profiles, enhanced or decreased their self-esteem and well-being. Valkenburg, Patti M., Jochen Peter, and Alexander P. Schouten. "Friend Networking Sites and Their Relationship to Adolescents' Well-Being and Social Self-Esteem." CyberPsychology & Behavior 9.5 (2006): 584-90. Web. 29 Mar. 2015. Since my last post was about relationships and social media in general, I thought that this time I would be more specific and talk about relationships via Facebook because it's not really a relationship until it's "Facebook official."
In an article I read, called "Is Facebook a homewrecker?"by Katherine Bindley, it said that many of us use Facebook as a way to connect with people we don't talk to everyday and people we don't know as well. For example, "your college friend got engaged, yay! A girl you met once at a party who's baring her midriff in her profile picture wrote on your fiancee's wall - hold up where'd she come from?" Facebook tells a lot about a person whether it's relationship statuses or their age and I think that's what makes/brakes a relationship. Katherine Bindley went to Colombia University and she is a reporter at The Huffington Post as well as The Wall Street Journal and TheNew York Times. A 2009 study suggested that Facebook makes "unique contributions to the experience of jealousy in romantic relationships." There's even a Facebook page called "I wonder how many relationships Facebook ruins every year" and it has over 100,000 "likes". To me, I think this is just because of how many friends one partner has compared to the other or who interacts with who on Facebook that makes the other person jealous. So in relationships, Facebook has become the new key to information. Bindley, Katherine. "Facebook Relationship Problems: How Social Networking And Jealousy Affect Your Love Life." The Huffington Post. TheHuffingtonPost.com, n.d. Web. 18 Mar. 2015. Relationships and Social Media are the two most talked about topics among teens in society today, but are they being talked about in a positive way or a negative way or maybe a little bit of both? That is why I decided to pick this topic for my inquiry blog. I know I can get a lot of information on this topic including the answer to the question I asked above.
I recently read an article called "Couples, the internet, and Social Media" by Amanda Lenhart and Maeve Duggan. It talked about the internet, cell phones and social media becoming key actors in the life of many american couples. This article was written to see how american couples use technology to manage life, logistics, and emotional intimacy within their relationships. For example, in the article there was a specific place where it talked about positive/negative impacts on relationships from social media. It said that "10% of internet users who are married say that the internet has a major impact on their relationship and 17% say that it has had a minor impact. 72% of married adults said the internet has no real impact at all on their relationship." Amanda Lenhart is an expert in teens and social media and she is an associate director in research. I earned that 66% of adults are married or in committed relationships as of February 2014. This source has made me think about all the different types of technology that can impact all types of relationships whether it is positively or negatively. Lenhart, Amanda, and Maeve Duggan. "Couples, the Internet, and Social Media." Pew Research Centers Internet American Life Project RSS. N.p., 11 Feb. 2014. Web. 11 Feb. 2015. My proposed line of inquiry is: Relationships and how committed they really are with Social Media. People say that Social Media has impacted their relationship in such a positive way so I am really curious as to how. Some questions I have about my topic are: How has Social Media impacted relationships so greatly when all Social Media does is take up your life? How many people in the U.S. say that Social Media has impacted their relationship in a positive/negative way? I am hoping to learn the answers to these questions and better understand the concept of relationships via social media.
This issue is worth exploring because this is one of the most talked about topics on social media now and a lot of people are really interested in it so I want to give them the information they want to know. I think teens and young adults will benefit most from this research because they are the most common types of people to be in lots of relationships and be on social media at the same time. I am interested in this issue because I am a teen and teens my age are always on social media and they are getting into lots of different relationships because of it. I got this topic from a classmate that didn't like this topic she was doing so I found an interest in it and I took it. To get more information I read an article on the internet about relationships and social media and it said that most people feel like social media has a positive impact on their relationship and only some people feel that it has a negative impact. I believe that social media takes over people’s lives so I don’t believe it has such a positive impact all the time. I expect to find the real truth about relationships and social media and find out if it really has a positive impact or if people are just saying that. |
AuthorMy name is Meghan Margies and I go to UNCC. I am keeping this blog for my UWRT 1102 class. It is about Inquiry Archives
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